I find a lot of guys want a magic bullet to make a woman fall in love with them. I haven't found a magic potion yet (not that I've looked) and personally think this is the wrong approach. Instead of trying to make a woman fall in love... you should be asking why a woman would fall in love with me.

Changing your point of view can make a dramatic difference. You feel a sense of a relief when you realize it's up to you whether she falls in love or not. Not only are you happier being the best you can be but you'll attract a lot more high quality women into your life.

I'm a little shocked how many guys give away their own personal power by trying to please women. Flattering her with words and gifts. But instead of creating attraction it has the opposite effect.

Bribing a woman into liking you simply doesn't work. You don't control her attraction... that's the bottom line. It's no good trying to please women all the time and getting stressed about what they think.

You should take a page out of the dating gurus' book and learn how to create attraction in women. I personally believe that you should study this stuff even if you're already in a relationship. It should be obvious that creating attraction with your partner is important.

This is the approach I took when dating but nothing has changed now I'm in a long term relationship. But it's important to state that it's not all about fancy pick up techniques. It's about becoming the man that women fall in love with.

And I think we all want to be that man. Because it's like a whole new world when you become naturally attractive to the opposite sex. Believe me as I know from my own experience.

How can you tell if a guy likes you or is interested? You noticed him when you were standing and talking with a friend. You think he noticed you, but maybe it was your imagination or just wishful thinking. He looked at you at about the same time you saw him. Your eyes met for just a few seconds, and then you looked away. When you looked back up, he was talking with some other people. Was he watching you as you mingled? Or were you making that up? How can you tell if a guy likes you? Why are guys so hard to read?

Here are five signs that he is interested in you too. If any of the following happens, he is probably trying to get close enough to ask you out:

1. He tells someone

Is he interested? He likes you if he tells a mutual friend that he wants to know more about you, or he asks other people who you are and where you're from. He is trying to act like he's "just asking" but his questions indicate more than a casual interest. And when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.

2. The look

He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. You think you notice the beginning of a tentative smile.

3. The conversation

Does he like you? When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, he is interested. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No." Never ever wear a ring in public. When a guy is across the room, he cannot tell which finger it is on and he may assume incorrectly that you are taken. If he doesn't ask you the question of whether or not you are attached, he may ask someone whom you both know.

4. He appears unexpectedly

He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.

5. EVERYONE likes you

Is he interested? When you are well liked and a happy person, why wouldn't he like you? Of course he does. If you don't have a great life, however, now is your time to start working on one. Take a look at your career possibilities, body image, future, plans, and resources. You may be naturally talented at something, but it won't matter unless you work on your strengths. Misused or unused talents fade away. School and training do not.

These are the five signs that he is interested and he is on the verge of asking you out. Make it easy for him and be friendly. This is where relationships begin.

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